Cheating on your wife with VR Porn Stars?

It started with a few innocent drinks and some casual chit-chat with the pornstar of your dreams. But they dropped a few funny, flirtatious lines, and that smile made you weak at the knees. Oh, and those eyes, those sultry eyes. A perfect pair with that smile. Next thing you knew, they were in your room, on your bed, and things had moved well past hot and heavy.

There’s just one problem. You’re going steady with someone. You’re committed. Your partner is committed. But now you’ve been unfaithful. Or have you? Imagine that the above scenario did indeed play out, but instead of a night down at the local pub or in a hotel bar halfway across the world, everything unfolded via virtual reality. Does that still count as having an affair?

Virtual reality sex with real pornstars is becoming more popular. VR has been enjoying steady adoption, with more people turning to VR headsets to experience video games, movies, and yes, sex.  All through VR. Some are starting to wonder, however, where VR porn fits in terms of affairs and cheating.

After all, virtual reality is an experience, not simply something you sit on the sidelines and watch. And if VR sex offers a sexual experience, could that count as cheating?

VR sex is a gray area for many people and couples. The most important first step for anyone trying to figure VR sex out is communication. Once you start communicating with your partner, you can set proper expectations and boundaries.

Considering What Crosses the Line and What Doesn’t

So, does sex with pornstars in VR count as cheating? The answer may have to be determined on a case by case basis. If you and your partner are slipping on a pair of VR goggles so you can both zip off to Paris for a virtual night on the Seine together, you’re obviously not cheating. You’re with your partner after all, only the scenery is changing.

Now, what about a VR porn session with your favorite porn star? Say you head to VR.sex or another site and watch some virtual reality porn movies? Unless your spouse currently considers porn cheating, simply tweaking the medium shouldn’t count, right? Perhaps. For now, you’re still just a bystander, although VR porn can indeed be more intense.

What if you add haptic feedback, KIIROO Onyx’s, and all the other devices to offer a physical experience? Suddenly, the interaction is more physical, and some partners may be uncomfortable with this.

Raising things up another notch, let’s say you interact with a live person through VR sex. You’re in your bedroom in New York, they’re in Seattle. You both get down and dirty in VR, using devices to see and “feel” one another.

A lot of partners might be uncomfortable with that. You’re no longer a spectator, you’re an active participant. And perhaps worse, the person you’re interacting with is a real, live person too, albeit not physically in the same room.

Suddenly, the nameless porn models are no longer nameless. Nor is it a near mythical porn star. Is it a physical person, with a real name and have you had a physical interaction?

Where does that leave you? On home base but back to square one?

VR Sex and the Slippery Slope

VR porn may encourage some people to be more risqué with their adventures. And that could set up a slippery slope. You might meet with someone from Seattle through VR today. But what if next week you’re hooking up at the local motel? A slippery slope indeed. On the other hand, maybe VR sex will enable people to satisfy carnal urges without crossing hard boundaries, like real-life affairs.

So does VR porn count as cheating? There are no clear lines, and plenty of gray areas. At the end of the day, it comes down to how both partners feel. Some partners feel that any porn at all counts as cheating. Many are more relaxed, but with VR sex, especially with another real, live person and combined with sensual input, virtual reality can be a bit too close for comfort.

Then again, maybe VR offers you and your partner a chance to safely swing while still allowing you both to maintain safe, STD-free distances? Perhaps VR porn videos can offer a way for you both to spice up your sex life? Communication, and in this case agreement, is vital.

Set Boundaries and Respect One Another

Sadly, VR sex may lead to some breakups in the future. Regular porn already does, on occasion. By being aware of slippery slopes and respecting one another’s boundaries however, you can reduce risks. Easy, clear answers are preferable. Yet when it comes to sex, such answers are often hard to speak.

For now, you need to respect your partner and together, you should try to develop boundaries that you both can respect and appreciate. A golden rule can be useful in these situations. If you’d be uncomfortable with your partner engaging in a certain activity, VR sex or otherwise, isn’t it fair to assume that they’d be uncomfortable with you doing the same?

Ultimately, VR sex raises many questions and quandaries. As we become more familiar with VR sex, some natural boundaries may emerge, and concerns may be easier to address. In the meantime, keep communication channels open!